Disclaimer: I am not an authority on karma or anything else, it turns out. But here are a few things I learned along the way.
What Tomaso and I married, both of us were moderately unconscious. We had certain things in common. We were both seekers. We had a desire to help others, all within the context of ego, perhaps, meaning we hadn’t yet learned to identify with the being behind the body or form.
From what I understand as of this moment in time, had we divorced, because we entered the relationship as relatively unconscious beings, the karma somehow doesn’t really play out to the full extent of Karmic Law.
But we became consciously in tune as we matured. He left by dying into his next journey. We developed a close bond of respect and allowed the other to be who they were without trying to fix foibles or human frailties. I have no regrets. As he was dying, I held his hand and told him I loved him. Then I performed CPR, got him to the hospital where he was able to break free.
So we started out by acquiring the karma we had together. As we became more conscious, our karma evolved to what has been called “given karma.” My parents and siblings and our children are our given karma. Hopefully, we grow to honor them as who they are without any need to change them. Compassion does not mean we fix what we perceive to be mistakes or errors. We learn to let other people alone.
When other people “get to me “ and I hang onto that, I am blind to the simple soulness of their being. Soul to soul. That vision of being human is why we are here now. When we think in terms of the changeless, God, divine, love, we emerge from the ever-changing challenges to full embodiment of calm, peace, forgiveness. OM